WHOM TO MARRY

Over the past two months or so, I've been carefully and wisely considered the kind of woman I would like to have for a wife, the kind of marriage I would love to have, and most importantly, the kind of kids I would like my wife and I to raise by God's grace.

Over this period of thinking, I've come to realise that perhaps one of the major reasons some of we singles aren't changing in terms of marital status, be you a male or female single, is as a result of our personal comparison to our desired need, which amounts to TOO MUCH EXPECTATIONS of and about our desired kind of spouse. We think only within ourselves alone without first asking God for His plans for our lives concerning whom to marry. And sometimes we eventually ask God, and we hear Him giving us clear instructions about who to marry, but our ego, pride and the fear of probably going to a lower class in terms of their standard compared to who we are or have, just wouldn't let us accept and obey God's instructions to us.

God always want the best for us, but sometimes in life, God can deliberately change the plan and the game not to suit us, but to prove a point and to achieve something beyond our wildest thinking. God can decide to use ashes for beauty as He also uses the foolish things of this world to confirm the wise. For some people, you might need to pray more for a discerning spirit, God has deposited so much in you, just so that you can use that blessing upon your life to lift others to a point of limelight.

Wow, it is good that you desire to marry a beautiful lady, a handsome dude, tall, cool, Holy Ghost filled and Naira loaded, but surprisingly enough sir and ma, for some people (as God is sometimes full of unpredictable humor), that husband or wife you've been praying for might just be that security guard always opening and closing your gate either at home or at work, that driver whom you're always shouting on and insulting everyday, that maid or cook you've never respected for once, that your so called ugly and illiterate sister, or that your so called ugly, illiterate and broke brother who couldn't afford more than a room apartment. You better start praying now for a husband or wife with the heart of God, rather than wasting your time waiting for qualities that won't add a thing to you. All that glitters is not gold...

See, one of the greatest problems with man is that we expect too much from life based on our own personal knowledge of what we think we deserve. Only God knows what's best for us.
No man or woman is ugly, what they need is packaging and what they lack is money. And no man is broke, what he need is ideas and what he lacks are right thinking and access to the right information. Think about this and lead your life, because even a stopped is correct twice a day.

God bless you and I love you